10 years ago, at 23 years of age I was pregnant with my first child. I knew I was having a boy. What I didn't know was that there was very specific reason for his lack of movement. I didn't know the baby I was carrying had Muscular Dystrophy. I didn't know the fight he would have ahead of his tiny little life. And most of all, I didn't know I would be burying him the next January.
My 23 year old self didn't know that after losing Chandler to MD, we would go through the grueling process of adoption of a little boy who would later have learning disabilities and behavior issues. I didn't know I would have the amazing privilege of carrying and giving birth to a healthy baby girl only to become pregnant and lose another little boy to MD after her.
Whew, that's a lot to go through in 10 years. Then, I always ask myself the silly question, "If you knew then what you know now, would you do it over again?"
My first instinct would be to say no, but that would not be my answer. My answer would be yes, I would do it all over again. I had the amazing privilege of being Chandler's mommy for almost 7 months. That's about 5 months longer than the doctors thought I would have him. I got to know that amazing baby who was so sweet and beautiful with his big blue eyes and dark curly hair. That baby's life led my husband to Christ. My husband gave his life to Jesus in a breast pump room at St. David's hospital after hearing that our son would not likely live 1 year.
Here is our first family photo taken in the NICU in 2001.
Here is our precious boy at home. A nurse (who by the way took care of Chandler & Max) gave Chandler that dalmatian puppy. He loved that toy so much we had him buried with it.
Little did I know that after Chandler, Ethan would come into our lives. This little baby would give me back the life I had lost after Chandler died. When Ethan came to us, I wasn't living. I was just existing. Even though I knew Ethan had ACC and we didn't know what the future would hold, we knew we loved him and wanted him in our family with all our hearts.
|Ethan's Adoption Day!|
I also didn't know that I would have a beautiful baby girl. I really thought that after Chandler, I wouldn't try to have another baby. The risk was far too high for us. Well, God had different plans. Mark and I tried for another baby and were so very blessed with our healthy Emily.
|Family time with Max|
I know people question Mark and I, wondering how could we stand having a second little boy, knowing he would die. Well, termination was out of the question. And most of all, I was praying for a miracle. God hears all our prayers. Even though he didn't heal Chandler & Max the way I would have liked, he did heal them and gave them eternal life with Him in Heaven. I chose to carry my boys because God chose to carry me.
Would I do it over again? Yes. My 23 year old self didn't know all the hills and valleys I would go through. But as I look around now, on Mother's Day in my 33rd year, I am happy. I am content. I don't know what the next 10 years will bring, but with God all things are possible. I am living proof.
|Mother's Day 2011|